Earlier this week, someone I know was complaining about a throbbing pain in her eyes. She then decided to have her eyes checked and less than 24 hours after her check-up, she started wearing eyeglasses for the first time. She was saying that she didn’t realise how bad her eyes were until the optometrist had her read letters using a ‘phoropter’. While changing and trying different lenses, she was surprised that images can still get clearer than how she currently sees it without eyeglasses.
That conversation stayed with me for few days. It reminded me of how most of the time we thought things are just OK. Only when relationships start to bring a disturbing and throbbing pain, that’s when we start to take notice. We probably need a ‘phoropter’ and try different lenses called love, understanding, patience, humility and many other virtues we have within us in order to see what the relationship is all about and what does it truly mean to us.
Our relationship with God, with members of our family, friends, co-workers and even strangers are constantly exposed to our own imperfect lenses that are sometimes too quick to judge, to accuse, to blame and sometimes even to take advantage of someone’s weakness.
Our life is a collection of experiences. At times, we capture snippets of these experiences through our imperfect lenses. We capture and keep the things that hurt us, the things that through lack or absence of humility compromised our ability to show compassion. These images and feelings about people who come across our way somehow influence the way we live our life, the way we express love and the way we allow others to love us.
What benefit will it bring if we only keep images of pain, rejection, abandonment and hate? But how joyful and peaceful will it be if we capture and remember the goodness of each person?
Each day, we are pilgrims holding a camera that allow us to capture moments in our lives that we can keep and look back to. Be mindful that sometimes our own lenses are blurred by jealousy, pride and many other distractions. Clear it out before it gives us a throbbing pain.